Blog Post: A Personal Experience: Traditional vs. Gestational Surrogacy
Surrogacy is a topic that has gained a lot of attention in recent years, especially with the rise in fertility issues and same-sex couples wanting to start a family. With advancements in medical technology, there are now two types of surrogacy – traditional and gestational. Both have their own unique processes and legal implications, but I have personally gone through both and can attest to the stark differences between the two. In this blog post, I will share my personal experience with traditional and gestational surrogacy and how it has impacted my life.
Traditional surrogacy involves the surrogate mother using her own egg and carrying the baby for the intended parents. This means that the surrogate is biologically related to the child she is carrying. On the other hand, gestational surrogacy involves the use of In Vitro Fertilization (IVF) where the egg and sperm of the intended parents are fertilized and then transferred to the surrogate’s uterus. In this case, the surrogate has no biological connection to the child.
My journey with traditional surrogacy began when my husband and I were struggling with fertility issues. We had been trying for years to conceive and were devastated when all our efforts failed. That’s when our close friend, Sarah, offered to be our surrogate. She had always been supportive of our dream of becoming parents and was willing to help us in any way she could. We were overjoyed and grateful for her selfless gesture.
The process of traditional surrogacy involved Sarah going through intrauterine insemination (IUI) where my husband’s sperm was injected directly into her uterus. The first attempt was unsuccessful, but the second time was the charm. Sarah became pregnant and we were over the moon. However, as we soon found out, traditional surrogacy comes with its own set of challenges.

A Personal Experience: Traditional vs. Gestational Surrogacy
One of the biggest challenges we faced was the legal aspect of traditional surrogacy. Since Sarah was the biological mother of the child, we had to go through a lengthy and complicated legal process to establish our parental rights. There were also concerns about potential emotional attachments between Sarah and the baby, which was something we had to navigate carefully. It was not an easy journey, but we were blessed with a beautiful baby girl who has brought so much joy into our lives.
After a few years, we decided to expand our family and turned to gestational surrogacy. This time, we worked with a surrogacy agency and were matched with a surrogate, Emily. Unlike traditional surrogacy, there was no biological connection between Emily and the baby. The IVF process involved retrieving my eggs and fertilizing them with my husband’s sperm, and then transferring the embryo to Emily’s uterus. While this process was more complex, it also had its own benefits.
One of the biggest advantages of gestational surrogacy was the lack of any legal complications. Since Emily had no biological ties to the baby, there were no legal hurdles to establish our parental rights. This made the whole process much smoother and less stressful. Additionally, we were able to have a more open and transparent relationship with Emily, which helped us feel more involved throughout the pregnancy. We were also able to attend doctor’s appointments and be present for the birth of our son, which was an incredible experience.
Another significant difference between traditional and gestational surrogacy is the emotional bond between the surrogate and the intended parents. In traditional surrogacy, it can be challenging to navigate the emotional attachment the surrogate may have with the child. In our case, Sarah was incredibly supportive and understood the boundaries, but it was still a difficult dynamic to navigate. However, with gestational surrogacy, the surrogate is carrying the child for the intended parents and has no biological connection, making it easier to establish boundaries and avoid any potential emotional complications.
In conclusion, both traditional and gestational surrogacy have their own unique challenges and benefits. My personal experience with both has shown me the stark differences between the two. While traditional surrogacy allowed us to have a child biologically related to one of us, it came with legal and emotional challenges. On the other hand, gestational surrogacy offered a smoother and more transparent process, but without a biological connection to the child. Ultimately, both experiences have led to the most rewarding outcome – our two beautiful children.
Summary: Surrogacy, whether traditional or gestational, is a complex and emotional journey for all parties involved. As someone who has gone through both processes, I have experienced the stark differences between them. Traditional surrogacy involves the surrogate using her own egg, while gestational surrogacy uses IVF to fertilize the intended parents’ egg and sperm. Traditional surrogacy has legal and emotional challenges, while gestational surrogacy offers a smoother and more transparent process. Both have their own unique benefits, but ultimately, the end result – a beautiful baby – is what makes the journey worthwhile.





