Egg Retrieval vs Egg Sharing: A Surrogate’s Story

Egg Retrieval vs Egg Sharing: A Surrogate’s Story

As a surrogate, one of the biggest decisions you will have to make is whether to undergo egg retrieval or egg sharing. Both options have their own set of pros and cons, and it’s important to understand them fully before making a decision. In this blog post, we will share the story of a surrogate who has experienced both egg retrieval and egg sharing, and provide insights on the process, emotions, and considerations involved in each.

First, let’s define egg retrieval and egg sharing. Egg retrieval is the process of retrieving eggs from the intended mother or an egg donor and fertilizing them with the intended father’s sperm in a laboratory. The resulting embryos are then transferred into the surrogate’s uterus for implantation and pregnancy. On the other hand, egg sharing involves the surrogate sharing her own eggs with the intended parents, in addition to carrying the pregnancy.

Our surrogate, Sarah, initially chose egg retrieval for her first surrogacy journey. She had always dreamed of helping a family in need and felt that egg retrieval was the best option for her. She underwent the necessary medical and psychological screenings and was matched with a couple who had been struggling with infertility for years. Sarah was excited to be able to provide them with the chance to have a baby of their own.

The process of egg retrieval was not easy for Sarah. She had to undergo several hormonal injections to stimulate her ovaries and produce multiple eggs. These injections were accompanied by side effects such as bloating, mood swings, and fatigue. However, Sarah found comfort in the fact that she was doing this for a greater purpose and kept her eyes on the end goal.

Once the eggs were retrieved, Sarah had to go through a brief medical procedure to have them removed. The procedure itself was quick and painless, but Sarah experienced some discomfort and cramping afterward. The eggs were then fertilized with the intended father’s sperm and the resulting embryos were transferred into Sarah’s uterus. Unfortunately, the first transfer was not successful, and Sarah had to undergo a second transfer before finally becoming pregnant.

Egg Retrieval vs Egg Sharing: A Surrogate's Story

On the other hand, Sarah’s second surrogacy journey involved egg sharing. This time, she was matched with a couple who wanted to use their own eggs but were unable to do so due to medical reasons. Sarah was hesitant at first, as she had to share her own eggs and may potentially have a biological connection to the baby. However, she was reassured by the couple’s genuine desire to have a baby and their emotional connection to the child.

The process of egg sharing was similar to egg retrieval in terms of the medical procedures and side effects. However, Sarah also had to go through the emotional process of preparing to potentially be a biological mother to the child she was carrying. She found herself feeling more attached to the pregnancy and the baby, which made it both a challenging and rewarding experience.

In the end, both egg retrieval and egg sharing journeys resulted in successful pregnancies for Sarah. However, the emotional journey and considerations involved were vastly different. With egg retrieval, Sarah felt like she was simply a vessel carrying the intended parents’ biological child. With egg sharing, she felt a deeper emotional connection to the baby and the intended parents, as she was also contributing genetically to the child’s creation.

When asked about her advice for other surrogates considering egg retrieval vs egg sharing, Sarah emphasized the importance of fully understanding the process and being prepared for the emotional journey. She also stressed the importance of communicating openly and honestly with the intended parents about expectations and boundaries.

In conclusion, egg retrieval and egg sharing are two different paths that a surrogate can take in their surrogacy journey. Each has its own challenges and rewards, and it’s important for a surrogate to carefully consider their options and communicate openly with the intended parents before making a decision. Ultimately, the most important thing is to provide a loving and supportive environment for the intended parents and the baby, regardless of the method of conception.

Summary:

In this blog post, we shared the story of a surrogate who has experienced both egg retrieval and egg sharing. We defined these two options and discussed the process, emotions, and considerations involved in each. Egg retrieval involves retrieving eggs from the intended mother or an egg donor and fertilizing them with the intended father’s sperm, while egg sharing involves the surrogate sharing her own eggs with the intended parents. Our surrogate, Sarah, initially chose egg retrieval for her first surrogacy journey and then underwent egg sharing for her second journey. She shared her experiences and advice for other surrogates considering these options. Ultimately, the most important thing for a surrogate is to provide a loving and supportive environment for the intended parents and the baby, regardless of the method of conception.